‘I’m Tired of Hiding’: Revenge-Porn Victim Speaks Out Over Her Abuse

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NY Daily News – Holly Jacobs, 29, who legally changed her name from Holli Thometz following years of online abuse, is finally speaking out over her ordeal. She alleges her ex-boyfriend posted intimate pictures of her on the web.

By / NEW YORK DAILY NEWS

Friday, May 3, 2013, 12:05 PM

Speaking out: Holly Jacobs, 29, is speaking out about her years of abuse online from “revenge porn”; she alleges that an ex-boyfriend posted intimate pictures of her on the internet without her consent.

Holly Jacobs

Speaking out: Holly Jacobs, 29, is speaking out about her years of abuse online from “revenge porn”; she alleges that an ex-boyfriend posted intimate pictures of her on the internet without her consent

Once a victim of an online tormentor, Holly Jacobs is now speaking out over her ordeal, saying she is “tired of hiding.”

The 29-year-old Florida PhD student was horrified to see nude images of her popping up on the internet following a breakup with her ex, Ryan Seay.

After years of shame and struggle, the Miami-Dade resident has spoken out about her ordeal to the New York Observer’s BetaBeat blog, saying that she has dropped her first tainted identity and is moving on with her life.

Jacobs, whose birth name was Holli Thometz, began dating Seay in 2006. During their relationship, she sent him intimate photos and videos.

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“We shared photos to keep the intimacy alive,” she told the Miami New Times. “I completely trusted him with this material.”

She alleges that after their breakup some years later, Seay violently betrayed her trust by distributing nude photos and video of her around the web – without her consent.

The practice, known as “revenge porn,” has become hugely problematic in the past few years, as legislation to protect victims for the most part does not exist.

Only one state — New Jersey — has a revenge porn law. The ruling was passed following the bullying and subsequent suicide of Rutgers student Tyler Clemente, who jumped to his death from the George Washington Bridge after his roommate posted inappropriate video of him and another man.

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Taking action: Jacobs has since created endrevengeporn.com, a site for victims to speak out to try to change the laws, which have not kept up with the alarming number of cases.

Holly Jacobs

Taking action: Jacobs has since created endrevengeporn.com, a site for victims to speak out to try to change the laws, which have not kept up with the alarming number of cases.

The images of Jacobs went viral, and every attempt to remove them proved futile, as dozens of sites would pick up a photo or video just after she had scrubbed another site clean.

“I worked like a dog trying to get all of (the pictures) down,” she told the blog.

Jacobs says that a particular video was uploaded with the title “Masturbation 201 by Professor Holli Thometz” to cast a wider net of potential viewers — Jacobs had been a teaching assistant at a Florida university at the time, and the X-rated clip might pop up when a student searched for her name.

After a friend alerted her around 2009 that her Facebook page had been compromised, Jacobs felt betrayed. She told BetaBeat that the only person with access to her Facebook password was Seay, and the only person to whom she sent intimate photographs.

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Realizing that there would be no relief until her name was not tied to the explicit images and video, Jacobs legally changed her name.

She also filed a lawsuit last month against her ex — the first person in Florida to do so — alleging that he distributed revenge pornography, resulting in her invasion of privacy.

Jacobs has also created a site, endrevengeporn.com, where she encourages victims to speak out and help change legislation on the crime.

She wrote in a letter to legislators that the issue that she has been campaigning because there are no laws in Florida to protect those subjected to the crime.

“On behalf of all revenge-porn victims,” she writes, “I beg you, please give consideration to this issue and the bills that look to criminalize this act.

“Revenge porn is a worldwide issue and everyone is looking to Florida to do the right thing.”

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